Originally posted by QckCmbck
A long time ago I overheard someone answer that question and I liked what they said. They said that God doesn't make things happen like that, he lets them happen. Why? When you think of a child that is handicapped, or a child cancer patient that has lost all their hair or children who are disfigured, we are taught a great lesson. One is there is not limitation to why one person gets something the other doesn't ever have. People all over the world have problems. We assume that because God allowed this to happen that he does not love us or that he does not want us to be happy. This is far from the truth. We each have to learn to live with the life lesson that God has chosen for us to learn. While one learns compassion another learns to be confident and another something else. Just because we don't understand doesn't mean there isn't a good lesson to be learned. Have you ever talked to a handicapped child or a disfigured person or any child with an ailment? Most of those children are the most happy, loving, non jugemental people you will ever meet. Unconditional love and happiness comes from their hearts. They have saddness just like we do, but for the most part they have a greater love for life than most of us in the world. If their can be beautiful people in the world that are horribly ugly on the inside, than why can't there be just the opposite? I will not question God on his authority. He has chosen it for a reason. Even if I cannot understand what that reason is. All I know is that someday we will all be together in a place with no more tears, no more saddness or anger and everyone (saved) will have their new heavenly bodies and be with Christ.
Well, my statement was in repsonse to someone saying "Why would God allow people to be born homosexual". It's just the same thing as saying "Why would he allow people to be born with birth defects, ect..."
As far as what you said JC, about you "believe that it is a sexual disorder brought on by your environment. In other words it's a choice but it goes deeper than that it's like an addiction to alchohol or drugs. It's hard to recover but, it can be done.
I know someone who's known their entire life ... or at least as far back as they can remember, that they've been attracted to boys. Their childhood was normal, normal family, father and mother, no sexual abuse, no mistreating, no neglect. As a child they wanted to play house, and play with the girls, because that was fun for them. While all the other boys were saying "ew, girls are gross", and playing G.I. Joe, they were playing house with the girl next door, and playing with her dolls. As they got older, going through puberty, they tried to fit in, they tried to date girls, and feel some physical attraction to them, but they never did. Again, nothing in their 'environment' has "made them choose to be gay". When they hit their 20's, they realised that no matter how hard they tried to feel attracted to women, it just wasn't happening. They liked women, they're good friends with many women, but they feel no physical attraction to them. But that attraction is there for men. The sad part, they know it's wrong in the eyes of God (they're Baptist btw), and they know it's against nature ... but they can't help how they feel.
So, tell me. How can someone who came from a completely normal childhood, who was very effeminant(sp) as a child, who tried to be attracted to women, how can they have chosen to be gay? What 'environmental variables' exactly were present to sway them to choose homosexuality over heterosexuality?
I've known him for about 2 years now, he's still in his early 20's, and he still hasn't gone out on a date with any man. However, he's given up on dating women. He remains friends with women, and is always searching for "the one" that will spark his attraction so he can stop being gay. So, what factors are present to foster this "addiction" as you put it, you can't be addicted to something you've never tried.